Be a fucking man

The last post lead me to one of the most pondered dating questions: Is it okay for a woman to approach a man?

Of course it’s fucking okay as long as he doesn’t own a rifle and a menacing desire to blow someone’s brains out. Most guys (note use of the term guys and not men) will say they wouldn’t normally approach a woman (losers) but are always happy when (good looking) females approach them.

The thing is, if you think of yourself as a self-respecting guy and you start stealing flirtatious/interested glances with a woman, and she reciprocates — be a fucking man and go up to her.

Smile. Say hi. Pay her a compliment. Keep it sincere. Follow up with a question to indicate interest (“Do you work around here?). Don’t out-linger your welcome. “I’d really love to stay and chat but I’ve got to get going (make her despair), but I’d love to take you out (treat her like a lady) to dinner. Are you free on (be assertive) Friday night (and decisive)? I know a great place (be a charming host) that does great Mexican food and Margheritas (be fun). Do you like Mexican food? (Check for allergies). Ask for her number (be a fucking man). Text her and hour later and tell her how much you thanked the heavens for making her acquaintance. Exchange a few flirty sms. Tell her exactly where and what time to meet. Done. Playa.

There is a difference between having game, and playing games.

Finally, on date night: be normal. Be in control.

Next post: What guys hate about women and why we act that way.

Liz